Why should I talk to my friend when I already know what’s happening with him. I will just look into Fb and I will know everything that they are doing. My point is, what good does a system do when it provokes you depend on it and not allow your mind to trigger a pulse to speak to your friends. I think there is something to review here; something as dangerous as a dangerous habit.
Sometimes it becomes very difficult to get rid of the most habituated silly things, at the same time we can’t really call them silly habits. But what are these habits like; do we have them in our mediocre life. Let me revise my habits once so that we both can make our things clear. Habits. If you observe them keenly, habits are the subtle things in our life for which we tend to tweet our normal modus operandi so that there is some small share of happiness or confidence in some corner of our lives. Sometimes they are so important that we ensure that our habits are fulfilled at the cost of anything else. Adamant. Habits are alluring. Oh wait! What are we arriving at,,, yup! we are gonna see the real face of alluring habits. Now I’m not gonna speak about good habits or the benefits of good habits or how should a habit be etc,,, Now take this: Habits are dangerous. Habits are corrosive to mind. Habits are the flames of destruction and they creep unnoticed in our lives. Making no sense right. Alright then lemme begin with something that seemed benign from beginning. Notice the word ‘seem’ from the previous line.
Something seems benign from its birth for our social engineering is Facebook. Facebook. How much do you know about Fb. What do you do when you have to know what your friend if most probably doing. What do you do when you forget your friend’s birth day. What do you do when you want information about some random person who happens to be your friend’s friend’s friend. Or what do you do when you are sad or feeling gloomy,,, do you look for Fb! If you are looking for Fb when you are sad or lost, then that is the weakest thing you are doing to yourself. If you have to know about the state of affairs of any of your friends, tell me what did you do when you not had this Fb. You spoke to them, isn’t it. But now you mostly don’t because you have Fb to put in your status and let people know what’s happening with you. And this is the very reason, why Fb is corrosive in nature to human mind. Did you talk to your friend when you were sad or when they were sad. Now I know that it is difficult to speak to 50 friends and tell them that you are sad. Instead you will just put it across Fb. But what are you actually doing. You are telling 50 people that you are sad and there by you are making all the 50 people to console you over Fb. This is the dependency that mind is creating over Fb. This is just at the façade. If you observe keenly, you will notice that even the most lovable friends who are in your reach are not talking to you in person. Even they are cheering you over Fb. Did you notice that and do you like such a thing happening to you. This very dependency that mind is creating with Fb is corrosive to itself. And that’s why I call Fb as a dangerous habit.
You stand at bus stop and wait for the bus. You have 5 mins now. What do you do. You pull your phone out of your pocket and connect to Fb. Observe what is happening to you mind. Fb is dominating your mind. It is not even giving you 5mins of free time to allow you to think on things that are important to you and rather compelling you to just focus on itself. Do you like this.
Do me a favor. Delete your profile from Fb and stay without Fb for few months. I’m sure you must have done all those things that were imminent for few years in your life. All those things which had lot of importance yet neglected begins to get noticed by your mind then. And you will begin to like it. What I’m telling you is not a pessimistic approach of looking at Fb. I’m just writing what I have seen happening with Fb.
Yet I don’t advise you to stay away from Fb. It’s a wonderful and the best known photo’s videos’ sharing site. Hehe! Take care.
Are Social Networking sites the only sites causing habits in us? What about Google? Isn't it the first thing you do when you want to check something out? Some people even say just “google it”, not "search it" or "look it up". Is that any better? Further I feel these sites are growing rapidly but did their strategies are shifting towards making tangible stuff. Google for instance is looking at Automatic cars etc. Microsoft moved from pure software into Hardware projects at their research centers (a start at least). So I guess it is the natural curve of evolution to exploit the weak and grow and then create helpful stuff (supposedly). It’s got nothing to do with habits as that is still yours to control. However, an interesting thing to note is truly great ideas are not addictive but liberating. In that sense I owe you thanks for helping me see it in a different light.
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a thought provoking post...
ReplyDeleteI agree these days we r kinda becoming dependent on fb for so many things.
Well said.... :)I completely agree.
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